(SERIOUSLY I WROTE A LONG POST IN GREAT DETAIL AND JUST LOST HALF OF IT)
Finally taking time to sit down and work out my thoughts. I am going to focus this post on our sweet Faith. Faith is from China and has a repaired cleft lip and palate. Her cleft was pretty significant and was not repaired until she was 16 months old. She joined our family when she was 20 months old and has been a part of our family for 2 years now.
I am going to start with a little background information and then talk about my recent struggles parenting Faith. On Faith's referral paperwork it was obvious that she was the "outcast" of the orphanage. Every picture we saw of Faith she was crying or had what we call a flat affect. When we went to pick her up we were told that she cried for the entire 5 hour train ride. We sent an update and pictures to the orphanage not long after we brought Faith home. We were happy to receive an email from the director in response. She stated that it made her happy to see Faith smiling. She did not think Faith would ever find a home where she would be happy.
Over the last two years I have described Faith as quirky with some annoying habits. Many times I have said she has the "dumb blond syndrome". (I am blond so I can say that) She has a significant speech delay which is obvious but I kept saying to myself we are still missing something. Well, my frustration in parenting Faith has escalated in the last 6 months. I am not going to go into details because frankly I don't have the energy. (THIS IS THE POINT WHERE I LOST THE REST OF THE POST AND I AM NOT GOING TO REWRITE ALL OF IT)
So, last week I had an "Aha moment" when I filled out a Sensory Processing Disorder Checklist. Faith scored high in hypersensitivity to touch, poor muscle tone and coordination, hyposensitivity to sounds, hypersensitivity to smells, auditory-language processing dysfunction, and emotional dysfunction. It feels good to understand why Faith is Faith.
Now comes the hard part, getting official testing and a therapist to help "us". I use "us" because it is not just for Faith. I am going to need some serious training on how to help Faith and not just react to her. I tend to react out of frustration with Faith and that is NOT WORKING for us.
If anyone has any reading suggestions on this topic I would appreciate your recommendations.
GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME